Being Alone Doesn’t Mean You Are Lonely — And Vice Versa

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Being Alone Doesn’t Mean You Are Lonely — And Vice Versa

When you hear the words “being alone”, it may indeed cause a feeling of sadness and fear.

You might dread the feeling of being alone in this world of over 7.7 billion people. We are social species. We love being around people, but sometimes it’s absolutely okay to be alone.

Being alone is not as fearful as some make it out to be. As a matter of fact, the solitude of being alone has therapeutic benefits that can give you a recharge and get you back in the real world.

Independent day for you
When you are alone it is a great way to become more responsible and do things on your own. It is a way of not relying on others, but mostly on yourself. You pretty much have the power and control to make your own rules and do everything the way you want. When you have this freedom, it can be quite fun.

Restore the POWER within you
Have you ever noticed in video games that if a character gets hit, it starts to lose its power?

But, when it takes bonus energy it becomes stronger. That is what life in the real world can do to us. It can hit us, but in order to regain that power, we must spend some quality time and recharge for another round. This should include eating healthily, light exercises, and just pretty much relaxing. Restoring means to unwind and be unstressed. So, make sure you are doing things that are making you feel better. Then, when you get back in the real world, you will be a whole lot stronger.

Think about this, the world can be noisy and overwhelming. It can drain you. Sometimes having a mental break and spending time alone can give you a boost. When you are alone it is just you and your thoughts. So, make sure your thoughts are clear and uplifting. It is the perfect time to count your blessings and be aware of what you are grateful for. Make your thoughts peaceful .Make your thoughts your best friend and not your enemy.

Another thing is to reflect on your life and how it has led you to the spot where you are right now. Think about if there is anything you want to change or improve. Think about how much you have faced in your life and being able to survive it all like the champion you are. Whatever it is, reflecting is a great way to truly be at one with who you are, and a way to make positive changes.

Take care of yourself
Being alone gives you the opportunity to pamper yourself. It is like taking a break and spending “you” time. Do whatever it is that is putting all the attention on you. It could be anything that is going to bring you joy and relaxation. You have done so much for others, now it’s time to return it to yourself. Remember, taking care of yourself means complete focus on YOU! You won’t regret it.

I acknowledge me as a person
When you are engaging with people, you are putting more attention on what’s going on in their lives and what you are doing in those surroundings. However, I have learned that when you spend time alone, it gives you the opportunity to really appreciate yourself, your gifts, talents, uniqueness and self worth. When you spend time appreciating who you are, then your need for approval and validation drops.

Plan your life
Another benefit of being alone is that it allows you to plan for your future. When you are alone and have clarity, you can put the focus on what you want to do. Perhaps, it can be a goal, something you have always wanted to do. It is something that is going to create a better future for you. When there are no distractions, you can make the best of creating a solid plan. Grab that notebook, drink that coffee, and start to plan out what you want.

Being more prone to productivity
I find when I write, it must be when I am alone. How can I concentrate and be in my thoughts, thinking of what I am writing about, when I am distracted? I get so much more done when I write alone. Same with the gym. I like to workout in my own gym because I avoid distractions. It is not because I don’t like to talk to people, it’s because I am highly focused on my training and intensity. And, I am able to have a great workout this way, when it’s just me and my weights and nothing else.

Writing and also lifting weights, means I concentrate better and get more done in a shorter amount of time.
If I have to speak with someone, then it will always be before or after my work is done, because using my time chatting ruins my productivity for the day.

I want you to remember that feeling lonely does not mean people don’t want to be around you. It does not mean you are not loved or wanted. This pandemic has been a tough battle, especially when we are required to stay away from people. It is not permanent and it does not mean you cannot connect with people through a screen. It does not mean you can’t call someone and talk to them. It does not mean you can’t do positive and productive things. If one door is temporarily closed, there are other options that can help you cope.

Whatever the case is, there is no benefit to being alone if you are not kind to yourself. As I mentioned above, be your best friend. No matter how alone or lonely you feel, you will ALWAYS be loved. It is an extra beautiful day for the many who are blessed you are on this earth. So smile, because you are someone’s hero, someone’s happiness and someone’s reason to never give up.

God bless you.
Never give up. Keep moving forward. Believe in yourself. Be a legend.

Sincerely, Danny Gautama (The Fighter)

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Danny Gautama has been in the fitness industry over 25 years and is a local author. He writes inspirational and motivational articles for mental health organizations after overcoming his own struggles. In addition to Biz X magazine, he also has been a guest blogger for Hotel Dieu Grace Hospital, and was featured in the Windsor Star. He currently lives in Windsor and is working on an inspirational book. Reach him by emailing: [email protected]