Be The Reason They Feel OPTIMISTIC
Every morning when I wake up, I have a few things on my mind. What inspirational posts am I going to write today to help someone feel better? I think about finishing the blogs/articles I am writing to help others and about making others feel good when I go outside.
I am not super duper rich, but when I help someone, I feel like a million bucks.
Helping people should be an obligation to the world. If we are in a good place in our life, we should encourage others to be in the same place. It just doesn’t feel right when we are happy and others are not.
I thank God for the struggles He has given me in the past, because it made me more empathetic to others and gave me more of a desire to help people. I promised myself that I would not want others to have felt what I did in the past. The world itself is going through enough right now. It can be an unkind place. This is why it is important to make sure we are there for those in need.
If you know someone right now that is going through a hard time, there are things you can do right now for them to bring them out of a depressed state to a more hopeful state.
Offer them Hope
A young girl sitting on the curb with her head down:
Danny: Hi, are you okay?
Young girl: No I can’t find hope in my life.
Danny: Can you do me a favour?
Young girl: Sure.
Danny: I want you to look up as high as you can. (Young girl looks up.) Now I want you to tell me what you see.
Young Girl – I see a blue sky with clouds.
Danny: Good. Now tell me sweetie, who lives there?
Young Girl: God?
Danny: Congratulations….You just found HOPE.
Hope is the number one thing that people with depression look for. They want to cope. They want the coping to far exceed the pain. They want to be happy. So letting them know that hope exists can be very beneficial.
When you offer hope to someone, you are telling them that there are better things for them in the future. Letting them know that troubled times are not permanent. Offer them that hope and give them the fuel to carry on. God does exist and He is out there. The struggle one faces is not a punishment; rather it’s a lesson to become stronger, courageous and better.
The motivational pep talk
Giving them a little Rocky Balboa talk can work wonders. I have tried this on social media and some have said that they needed to hear this. What I mean by the Rocky Balboa talk, is giving them a sincere and genuine big pick up boost. For example, if I was to give a person with depression a motivational pep talk it would sound something like this . . .
“Hey buddy, listen, I believe in you. You are gifted, talented, charismatic and strong. You are a freaking fighter. You are a champion. You got this. Whatever is happening to you is not going to last. Nothing lasts. Only exceptional people like you do. I am super proud of you for lasting this far like the warrior you are. You have come so far. Be proud of yourself for that. Now you have to continue. Fight for your happiness. Fight for your success. I got your back, GOD has your back, your families have your back, your friends have your back and so does the whole world. You can make the progress, you can improve. Just keep moving forward and improve every day. Do things that make you happy and most importantly do the things you are afraid to do. You will become UNBREAKABLE and UNSTOPPABLE. You are in charge of your life, NOT depression. You are in charge of your choices and decisions. Stomp on your depression, pick it up and throw it in the trash.”
Listening to someone is a part of being an empathetic person. They trust you enough to tell you how they are feeling. By listening, you are showing them that you are connecting with what they are saying and this in turn makes them feel more comfortable sharing their feelings with you.
Understanding is also a big part of showing empathy and connecting with them. You may not relate to their situation, but you can imagine it as if this happened to you. That is how I connect with others. I imagine myself in their situation and this makes me show more compassion and understanding.
Empathy is acknowledging their feelings, not ignoring. It is about caring for them and letting them know that they are appreciated.
Human beings are important people. People with depression or any mental illness should never be stigmatized. They are not asking for attention. They are asking for help. They are NOT weak, but some of the strongest people I know. They deserve to be treated with respect.
How can they receive the help they need if no one accepts them?
Helping is accepting them for who they are and what their current situation is. It is about not making them feel alone or lonely. Just be there for them. Accepting is appreciating them and letting them know that they are very important to you.
Maintaining eye contact – a great way to show that you are giving them your undivided attention. It is like they are your focus, which is pretty awesome. Do not look around the room and yawn as if you are bored.
Leaning forward – I have learned from reading books that slightly leaning forward shows that you are interested in them and care about what they have to say.
However, try not lean too close, as this may be getting into their personal space.
Smiling and nodding – a genuine smile is comforting and welcoming. It helps the person feel a little better and comfortable. Nodding is letting them know that you are on the same page.
Helping the disadvantaged
There are many people all around the world who are homeless. If you see someone who is homeless, then go say hi to them and ask how they are doing. Give them some food if you can. Remember, as I mentioned, every single person is important, regardless of their current situation.
Offering them resources
In addition to helping, you can offer them resources that are available. Mental health professionals, mental health organizations, inspirational and self-help books. Let them know that there are so many people who care and there is so much help available.
Take that first step. You will never regret it. It is always a gift to help others. Helping people can make a positive impact on your life and theirs. Helping others makes a difference in this world. Always remember, we are not the enemies. Depression, anxiety, cancer and coronavirus are.
God bless you and take care. Never give up. Keep moving forward, Believe in yourself. Be a legend.
Danny Gautama (The Fighter)
The Publisher of Biz X magazine and the entire team are so proud of Danny Gautama who was awarded a certificate from the LoveMakers Foundation for inspiring others with love, through his articles and social media sites, especially during the COVID-19 pandemic. LoveMakers Foundation President and CEO Deborah Toyias Kozich and Chief Spiritual Officer David Kozich sent the certificate to Danny in early May 2020. LoveMakers Foundation is a non-profit spiritual foundation, On-Line Church, creating a network of LoveMakers to Change the Paradigm of the World from fear to love. See: https://www.facebook.com/pg/Lovemakersfoundation to learn more! And keep up the good work Danny, we are so proud of you and how you do your best to help others, always!