Excuse me Mr. Excuses. You are in my way
“I’ll do it later.” “It was raining outside.” “I am too tired.” “Give me some time. I don’t have time right now.” And the classic, “My dog ate my homework.” Yes, we have all heard it in our life. The good old classic excuses.
Excuses are nothing more than having limiting beliefs, being too lazy and most of all being too comfortable. Pretty much, that you don’t have that WANT.
Let me start with Failure. It’s no secret that the world will fail at something. Worst thing is, some people make excuses to even avoid failing at something. We are taught that failing is bad and success is great. But this is further from the truth. Never make failing a bad word. It is not. It is that limiting belief that tells you failing is bad. Did you know failing and success are like friends. Failing is like a stepping stone to learn and grow. How are you going to succeed at something if you make an excuse of not trying because you are afraid to fail? You will fail. It’s okay though. Does that mean you are going to fail the next time you try? Maybe, but it’s okay. The point I am trying to make is that these failures are eventually going to turn into a success so as long as you keep trying and stop making excuses, and only then you will find yourself inevitably seeing positive results.
When we are comfortable, who wants to change right? But when you are comfortable not facing your fears or having to face any stressful situation that can actually help us, then that becomes a problem. How do I know? Well I was once like that. Full of Excuses. When I had agoraphobia due to my panic attacks. I made all the excuses not to get treated for it. I was comfortable. Too comfortable. I mean I didn’t have to do exposure therapy. Friends would come to my house but they were just feeding into my problem.
Sure I felt all this was a plus for me. But was it really? There were absolutely no positive changes in my life. Fear had a firm hold on me. I was stagnant .NO personal growth. Just still in the same spot. And the more comfortable I was, then the more negative thoughts crept up on me.
I was getting no sun. I was stuck in a prison that did not have to be in. Was I really happy at that time? I was not being able to accomplish what I wanted. I was comfortable but not happy.
The day I stopped making excuses and realized what would happen to me if, I did not improve my life, was the day I made changes. I stopped those beliefs and I took a risk at something new. I made a change.
You see friend .We do not get younger we get older. I do not want you to be 90 years old and looking back thinking “What if I did that?”
But you can still do it. You still have the time. Only if you believe you will achieve and succeed.
Everything is uncomfortable at first. But the pivotal moment in someone’s life comes with taking that very first step fearlessly and courageously. That where change happens and excuses leave.
As a man who has overcome depression and anxiety. I am so much happier now. I have not made any excuses to improve my life, only choices. I was able to achieve and make so many positive strides and accomplishments. I felt better and comfortable, but comfortable in a moving forward way, as opposed to stagnant. Excuses hold you back=No results. Changes move you forward=RESULTS. Always remember that.
What is holding you back? What are you waiting for? Nobody is physically stopping you. Stop limiting your capabilities, your talents and your potential. Just embrace what God has blessed you with and make the most of your life. You will be fine. Just put your fears aside and most of all do not over think anything and create a problem that did not have to be created. If you stop over thinking the bad that can happen and start embracing the good that can come out of it, then you will be more towards making changes in your life, but unfortunately people are still living in the “what if” world kind of thinking.
Whether you are trying to talk to someone about depression, facing your fears, achieving your goals losing weight, gaining weight or whatever it may be, then stop making excuses that are getting in your way and just do it. I love Action and so should you.
Have you ever thought about doing something and thinking about how it will feel if you achieved it? How happy you would feel? How happy others will feel about you? Truth is nothing is impossible .You can make it come into fruition, but just like I did. I made a choice and you must do it too. The choice of saying,
“Yes today I am going to start my first day of making progress in my life and I will let my excuses go and no longer use them. Excuses serve me no purpose. Good bye excuses and Hello changes.”
Each one of us is responsible for our own life. We must hold ourselves accountable to how far we can go.
Any day you waste is a day you will never get back. It could have been a day where you could have done something or started something that can involve changing your life.
So if you have to see a therapist, don’t say, “What if they judge me?” Try saying, “Therapists are there to help me feel better and help me improve my life. This is what they are good at”
If you want to reach your goals, don’t say, “I will do it next week.” Say, “Yes I am busy but I will make the time to start on my goals today.”
If you want to battle social anxiety and are giving exposure therapy don’t say, “Oh um I have to cancel because I um …. have to talk to my friends about our plans this weekend. Say, “I know this is uncomfortable, but this is going to help me in the long run if I don’t do it now, then when?”
So today is the day. Not tomorrow or the week after. TODAY. Start something you were afraid to do. Don’t think about failing think about if you don’t try. Not trying is a guaranteed no success. Putting your excuses aside and doing it, is a more favourable outcome in your path to greatness.
God bless you and take care. Never give up. Keep moving forward. Be a legend.