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Healing The World Starts With Words That Heal


Healing The World Starts With Words That Heal

Bret is being appreciated by his employer. He is being called a “wonderful asset”, “a hard worker” and an “ambitious person.” His employer calls him “GREAT.” Bret is going to feel good that he is appreciated and be motivated to do more than is expected. He is probably feeling pretty good about himself.

In another company, Shawn is being belittled, humiliated by his employer. He is being called “worthless and incompetent.” Shawn is going to feel discouraged and he might even question his own worth, even though he is a worthy human being. He might feel down for days, weeks or maybe months.

The impact of words should never be taken lightly.

We have all heard the phrase “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” I agree to a certain extent that sticks and stones do break your bones, but not everyone can say, “words can never hurt me.” Millions of people go through depression. They feel vulnerable and have low self esteem. So it’s fair to say that words can hurt people.

Words are very powerful. They are strong enough to cheer you up, inspire, motivate and even change your life. But words can also have an opposite effect. They are also powerful enough to destroy your health, peace of mind, and relationships with friends and families. Whenever you say hurtful things to someone, their problems can intensify.

Sometimes we forget that just because we don’t think what we say is offensive and hurtful, does not mean that the person you said it to will think the same as you do. Some people don’t get offended, but others do. This is why it is so important to be kind to people all the time.

Saying nice things to people will always leave a positive lasting impression. Kindness is not a sign of weakness. It shows not only your strength, but your elegance, poise and respect.

Being humble and speaking graciously shows your beautiful character and personality. Create your identity as a kind yet assertive human being. Let people know who you are. Kindness makes a GREAT impact, whereas hurtful words can ruin someone.

Saying kind words can build new relationships with people. You can meet new friends and even date others. Nobody wants to deal with anyone that is hurtful to them, – right?

Always remember, GOD is watching your good and selfless deeds. He will bless you with much abundance in your life. Good things will come back to you.

When you make people feel good about themselves, not only are you helping them, but you are helping yourself. You feel a sense of peace and happiness knowing that there was a big smile on someone’s face and that the person responsible for that was you. You will be able to sleep easier knowing you performed a wonderful, kind act.

Hurting others can eventually make you feel guilty and regretful. You wish you could take back what you said. Sincere apologies are always great and can be forgiven, but the words may never be forgotten. So it is important to know this when you are about to hurt someone’s feelings.

I have said this before; sometimes you can see a person so happy on social media or in person, yet there are hurting the most inside. They call this “smiling depression,” making it tricky to tell who has it. So if you see someone happy, never think that it is okay to say whatever you want to them, let alone anyone. Whenever you are about to hurt someone’s feelings, always keep an open mind and look at it from another perspective. Consider that what you are going to say will never be unsaid. Remember what I said. Words may never be forgotten. And consider the guilt and regrets you might feel in the long run. So save yourself the trouble, be kind and use a more tactful approach, especially if you are angry with someone.

Nobody deserves to be treated poorly and unfairly. Nobody deserves to be belittled by others. They are human beings just like you and me. They are just as important to this world as we are. In this world, our responsibility is to make this world happier. We owe it to GOD. He gave us life to enjoy our freedom, but He only asks for us to be happy, live for your purpose, never give up, be kind and help others.

Here are some of the many ways you can speak with kindness.

  • I care about you
  • I love you
  • You matter to me and so many
  • You are a blessing to this world
  • The world needs you in it
  • You are amazing
  • I am super proud of you
  • I appreciate you
  • You are irreplaceable
  • I need you
  • You are loved, loving and lovable
  • You are different
  • You got this, champion
  • You are beautiful

But what if someone says unkind things to you?
Yes, that is a great question. Truth is: a person who says unkind things is dealing with their own personal issues – that really has little to do with you.

If someone is unkind to you, do not lower yourself to get even with them. Just simply smile. A powerful smile shows them that you are not bothered or affected by their remarks. This may even bother them more, because they know that they could not hurt your feelings. Do not believe the words they say to you. These are NOT facts. Don’t let your feelings be determined by others opinions of you.

Heal yourself with kind words
Just as it is important to speak kind words to others, it is just as important to speak them back to yourself. Never speak ill about yourself. Be happy and proud that you are an amazing human being.

My friends, if you are trying to heal someone, then speak delicate, beautiful and positive, effective words. Wherever you go, whoever you meet, leave them a little happier and a little more cheerful. Let them remember that there are still good people like you in this world who are thankful that you exist. God bless you and take care. Never give up. Keep moving forward. Believe in yourself. Be a Legend.

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Danny Gautama
Danny Gautama has been in the fitness industry over 25 years and is a local author. He writes inspirational and motivational articles for mental health organizations after overcoming his own struggles. In addition to Biz X magazine, he also has been a guest blogger for Hotel Dieu Grace Hospital, and was featured in the Windsor Star. He currently lives in Windsor and is working on an inspirational book. Reach him by emailing: [email protected]