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Now What? How To Overcome What Happens In Your Life

Life is going to give us choices. Are you going to let it stop you? Or are you going to stop letting it? It is that simple.

Let’s take a closer look and elaborate.

Someone said something unkind to you. Now what?

Are you going to give them all the power of consuming your mind with what they said to you? Are you going to constantly try to figure out why they would do that? Nobody — and I mean absolutely nobody — is going to define you. Words are always going to be nothing but words. But, only you can control how you respond to someone’s unkindness. Do not let someone’s foolishness and ignorance make you question who you are and how much value you have. Unkindness is simply a reflection of how others feel about themselves.

Someone rejected you. Now what?

Once again, are you going to give someone the power to question your worth? Are you going to put them on this distorted pedestal and think they are better than you?

Everyone in this world has faced rejection one time or another. It does not matter who you are. And it certainly should not undervalue or make you feel that you are unlovable or unloved!

Take rejection as a redirection that you are being guided to something or someone better. If someone does not see your value, just remember many, many others do. And I am one of them.

Someone ignored you. Now what?

Ignoring people happens all the time, from social media to friends, relationships, and even families. If you have done something wrong, then the answer might be clear that you may need to acknowledge the situation with an apology.

If someone ignored you for no reason, then they might be going through a hard time. You can ask how they are doing. If they don’t respond, then you did your job. Please do not take it personally. It happens and there is nothing you can do or say to people to want them to speak with you. We do not have that control. But you have the control to continue being a good person.

Nobody likes to be ignored and it is poopy. However, I don’t want you to put your focus on the ones who are ignoring you. Instead, put all the focus on the people who truly love you and value your relationship with you. These are the Gems that matter.

Somebody spread rumours about you. Now what?

If you are a good person and people in your circle know that you are a good person, then who cares what they say! People who generally spread rumours love attention and pretty much are not busy and productive in their life. They crave drama. You are above and better than that. Continue to do the right things and continue to focus ahead in your life.

Remember, rumours are about jealousy and insecurities. There are some people who are miserable in their lives, and putting someone in the hot spot makes them feel better about themselves. Just feel sorry for them, but don’t feel sorry for yourself. They will stay stuck, but you will keep flourishing.

You failed at something. Now what?

Oh no — life is over for you! I mean it is the end of the world, because you failed at something. This is the worst thing that could ever happen. I hope you can sense my sarcasm.

So you failed. And now you should take that as a great thing, because failure is part 1 of success. So, you got part 1 all down. Now for Part 2, and that is — where did you go wrong? Find out what was the cause of this failure so you can move to PART 3, which is learning. What can you learn about this failure? And what is it trying to teach you? It is trying to teach you that failure is not a bad thing, but a good thing. It is telling that you success is not a first try win, but a process to help you become stronger, improve more and become better than you can possibly imagine. After that you go to the final step in Part 4, and that is to keep trying. You may have to go through all parts over and over until you finally get that win. And you will, so long you stick with it.

Your mind says you can’t. Now what?

Are you going to believe the negative (untrue) thoughts in your mind? Negative thoughts have only one purpose, and that is to make sure you don’t do anything GREAT in your life — in addition, to making sure that you will never be happy. When you are too happy, in your comfort zone and refusing to change, then you have already given away your power to ever change. You have to believe you are better and more powerful than your thoughts try to tell you.

When your mindset is in a positive range, then you will start to see the chains that shackle you start to break free. Ask yourself, are you stupid? Are you a failure? Are you not good enough? If you agree, then your thoughts start to take major control and take over a piece of your life.

If your thoughts are positive and uplifting, you feel good, happier, and you end up doing more positive things in your life. This is where your focus needs to go on every day.

Someone says you can’t. Now What?

Are you going to believe someone who does not have the slightest clue what they are talking about? You are going to have people who might not believe in you and that is fine, as long as you don’t take their comments as facts. They have no credibility. Yes You Can. Believe me when I tell you, because I have overcome all my obstacles in my life. What makes you think that you can’t either? What makes you think that you can accomplish so much more?

So just remember, there are NO contractual obligations that say people have to love you, appreciate you, accept you and approve of you. But on the flip side of the coin, there is no contractual obligation that says you have to give a damn!

God bless you and never give up.

Sincerely, Danny Gautama (The Fighter)