Santa Says, Ho Ho HOPE!

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Santa Says, Ho Ho HOPE!

It’s that time of the year again.

The songs of holiday music are all over the place spreading joy, positivity, and cheerfulness. The carollers softly sing with their soothing voices. The trees are lighting up to help brighten the mood, the candy canes, the large crowd of excited shoppers, the families, the parties, the delicious eggnog, the Christmas cookies, and last but not least, the man of the hour. Jolly old Santa Claus.

Yes, Christmas is just around the corner. I’d like to say that everyone is happy during this time of the year, but unfortunately that is not always the case.

So I wanted to write a special holiday blog for anyone who is going through a hard time.

I don’t know your story or what you are going through, but I wanted to just sit here with you for a few minutes, just to let you know I am here. I am not going anywhere until I know that you are smiling.

I don’t know if you are going through a break up, a divorce, stress, not being around families since this ongoing pandemic, or God forbid, you lost a loved one. Whatever the situation is, just remember this.

Santa gives out gifts, but God made you a gift!

Read that again. Whatever is going through your mind is not the reality. You have done so much, you have given so much, and you have helped so much. You are a good person and your heart is that of kindness.

You are a gem of kindness. This means you play an important part of this world. Not everyone does what you have done. Some ignore, hate, or hurt others. You are the complete opposite. You are a gift who can make so many people happy. I want you to first acknowledge your importance. Your worth and value are untouchable.

Rain or snow, the sun will always come back.

Whatever you are feeling right now will not stay. So you might as well start to say goodbye to it, because sooner or later that sun is going to come back and your problems are going to slowly start to vanish. You are going to smile, because you overcame something you thought you couldn’t. It will get better and I am sure of it. That is your power and strength. Everything hurts before it heals. So your only job is to never quit.

Shine and sparkle like a Christmas tree and Rudolph.

Rudolph was different and rightfully so. We all know about his prominent shiny red nose that everyone made fun of. However, Santa wanted him to realize that he was a special and precious treasure who stood out above the rest.

There are over 7.7 billion people in the world, but there will always be just one you. You have your own style, your own personality, and your own unique path. I want you to gather your courage and be confident that not only do you exist, but you are irreplaceable, memorable, and unforgettable.

So go out and shine!

You are just as magical as Christmas.

Every day is a new day to do what you want. That is the freedom and choices you have. You can create magic in your own life by changing your current thoughts and your current life situation. I want you to do something positive every day that is going to make you smile. You don’t have to feel sad and most importantly you don’t deserve to.

I am not letting you leave hope. It feels easy to give up and it feels whatever is happening to you will never change. But it does change. Hope changed my life. Hope is going to change yours. But you have to make that effort to find it. Being positive will enable you to do positive things. You have already suffered enough and it is not helping. Now it’s time to try something different.

Santa has his elves to help. You can help too and combat loneliness.

Feeling lonely doesn’t mean that people want you to be. It is okay to talk about how you are feeling to others. Never bottle it in. People can help you only if they know, because they are not mind readers. I don’t want you to ever feel that you are not loved or not wanted. It is just NOT true. I care about you, because I am writing this for you. Just like there are others out there who love you too. If you talk to someone who you trust and open up about your feelings, almost always, they are going to want you to feel better.

Go out and make connections with people. I will tell you one of the best ways to meet people is volunteering. Volunteering will help you feel so much better. Not only are you doing God’s work, but you are engaging with other kind people like you who are doing the same. You will start to feel so much joy, so much happier because you are an upstanding good person making an outstanding contribution.

It is okay to be alone without feeling lonely. Pets are great to have and decorating your place with positivity and happiness can also be very beneficial for your mental health.

Frosty the snowman was a jolly happy soul, because he doesn’t stress.

Holidays can be a very stressful time. If you are going through a financial situation, especially during this pandemic, I want you to remember you don’t have to go out and buy expensive gifts for your loved ones or friends. Homemade gifts or even a card is effort and shows enough kindness and love towards that person. If you can buy something, then stick within a budget. Don’t overspend when you don’t need to. You can also do your research and find sales.

You can also chip in with other family members and buy one gift for one family member to save money.

If you are having a small party, do not stress about doing everything on your own. You can’t do all the cooking, cleaning, shopping etc. I don’t want you to overburden yourself. Get families involved who can share some of the responsibility.

Self care is not only important during the holidays, but throughout the year. Take a break and relax, get comfortable and do something beautiful for yourself.

Here are some of my holiday tips:

  • Avoid the holiday rush. Mornings and late evenings may work best when you need to go out and about.
  • Avoid negative news and negative people.
  • Avoid alcohol or too much of it.
  • Keep in touch with families or friends via FaceTime or Zoom.
  • Maintain healthy eating and exercise.
  • Stay hydrated and get plenty of rest.
  • Be gentle and kind with yourself and others.
  • Put on cheerful music.
  • Let the light in. Don’t keep your curtains closed.

If you lost someone close to you, you do not have to grieve alone. There are so many people out there who want you to feel happy. You never have to feel lonely.

Know that somewhere out there you are beyond loved.

No matter how bad, YOU ARE NOT A QUITTER!

On a side note, I want to sincerely wish you and your families a very beautiful, blessed, and peaceful Happy Holidays.

Let happiness and kindness sprinkle all over you like the beautiful soft snow. And my wish for you is that Santa gives you the greatest gift of HOPE!

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Danny Gautama has been in the fitness industry over 25 years and is a local author. He writes inspirational and motivational articles for mental health organizations after overcoming his own struggles. In addition to Biz X magazine, he also has been a guest blogger for Hotel Dieu Grace Hospital, EmotionallyNaked.com and was featured in the Windsor Star. He currently lives in Windsor and is working on an inspirational book. Reach him by emailing: [email protected]