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Stop Feeling Insecure by Danny Gautama

As an Indian man, I grew up in a culture where other Indians were either Doctors or Engineers and needless to say that was something that I never wanted to aspire to be.

There was a time in my life that I used to feel embarrassed and insecure simply because I chose a different field. I remember in 1998 as a young man, it was so hard for me to be in front of other Indian people and I would avoid talking to them or simply just avoid going to parties and community events. I felt insecure and inferior about myself. Boy was that the biggest mistake I ever made. This was in fact a limiting belief that was distorted, false and further from the truth.

You see, I was immensely passionate about exercise, lifting very heavy weights and me being a bodybuilder, so I thought it would be wise for me to chose a field that I’am so good at and I can help others in return especially young people who wanted to get into strength training. I mean why would you want to do something that will not make you happy ….Right?

When I eventually stopped focusing on other people and what they were doing and how much more money they made than me, then I started to become my own individual and focus on my goals, my journey my life and future and started to embrace and be happy for others dreams and goals. If someone is a Doctor and I work in a health and fitness field does that really make them better than me? Absolutely not. If I have bigger muscles and can bench press more than most Indian people and help people reach their goals and transform their body, does that make me better than them?

Again, absolutely not.

We have our own uniqueness and our own journeys and something that we excel at and may have more knowledge about but that does not mean we are more superior than others. Let me give you an example. Let’s say I strained a muscle and the first thought that I would have is I need to see my Doctor because he is more knowledgeable in this area but let’s say my Doctor wanted to learn how to do Barbell Squats in a correct form so he would not injure himself, then obviously I would help him out because this is my line of work.

Remember when Michael Jordan showed Michael Jackson how to throw a basketball and later Michael Jackson showed Michael Jordan how to dance because they had no knowledge in the others passions yet they embraced and learned from one another instead of comparing who is better. It’s like comparing apples and oranges. So you see my awesome friends we are no better or worse than others. We are our own individual people who want to make a difference in people s lives.

You have nothing to be ashamed of. Be you. Be who you are meant to be. You have your own gifts and your own talents and now it’s time for you to embrace them and show the world who you are.

So stop being like others and be like you. Stop listening to your negative thoughts because this is what will create that distorted false belief about you.

Remember what Eleanor Roosevelt said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”