Win Or Lose, Don’t Lose Your Positive Attitude

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Win Or Lose, Don’t Lose Your Positive Attitude

Well, I must say it was a very hard loss for The Windsor Spitfires on June 15, 2022 being defeated by the Hamilton Bulldogs 6- 1 in Game 7 of the provincial finals.

The Bulldogs went to the Memorial Cup. And the Spitfires went home.

When I look at The Windsor Spitfires, I don’t see a losing team. I see a team who worked immensely hard to make it so far. In fact, I’m proud of them and they should be proud of themselves too.

Making it to the finals is no cake walk, but they clawed and scratched their way with hard work, persistence, and determination. They tried their best and that is commendable.

People want to win in life and it was obvious that the Spitfires were no exception.

Winning makes you feel good, powerful, unbeatable, and indestructible. So it is a no brainer, why everyone in the world wants to win.

But the problem is when winning is not achieved, some make it too hard on themselves. They feel like losers, failures, worthless, in addition to thoughts of quitting and not trying anything again.

I disagree when people think losing is a BAD word. I think if someone loses, it is a small setback. I will explain shortly.

As it is important to accept victory in a humble way, it is just as important to accept a loss too.

Losing is no fun for people, but it does not mean that a person is anything less than a winner. It just simply means that it was not their day to shine, but there will be another day. Just like when it rains, the sun will always find its way back.

When you see the fans, you can see it must be frustrating when their team does not win. I for one, love the Toronto Maple Leafs

I will never neglect them or jump on the bandwagon. I will cheer them on, win, lose, or draw. It is because I believe they are winners in my heart, even if they lose.

Have you ever lost at something? If so, then this is for you.

Own the loss.

The most important thing to do is accept. If you don’t, then you blame others, you become angry, you take it out on others, and become a victim.

Let it go through. Feel that loss, it’s okay. Accept what has happened.

Now I want you to prepare for the next positive step ahead. If you keep focusing on the loss, then you are positioning yourself to stay stuck and not move past this. So, after you feel that setback and accept it, then let it go.

Tell yourself it is okay and life is not over. This is just a part of it. Acceptance helps you bounce back with great resilience.

A winner’s mindset can’t still fail.

Even the most successful and greatest people in this world can lose. But the only difference is they don’t see losing as a complete failure. They see losing the way I mentioned earlier – as a small setback.

Their focus is to learn, improve, grow, and get the results. The result is stuck in a winner’s mindset, regardless of their setbacks.

Remember, a setback is a natural part of your life. If you don’t have setbacks you can never appreciate the victory.

If you don’t have setbacks, you are skipping the most important steps of life and that is the indelible strength, courage, perseverance, optimism, determination, and a never give up attitude.

A winning mindset is a winning attitude and a winning attitude makes you unstoppable.

That is the kind of mindset we must have. Have a winning mindset, but don’t lose that winning mindset if things don’t come out as you plan.

Keep believing in yourself and don’t get discouraged in life. You stand up, you climb up, and you never give up.

A winning perspective.

If you have ever faced defeat at something, try to not see it as a loss, just look at it from a different perspective. A positive perspective, if you will. When I think of a winning perspective, I think of someone who tried.

You want to know something? Some people are afraid to try because of the fear of losing, failing, or worried about what others are going to think of them. They have already defeated themselves with that mindset.

But you on the other hand, had the courage to stand out there and give it your all.

Sure it may not have been what you expected, but trying is success on its own. Winners try and you are a winner for trying. Trying is so beautiful.

Failure today is success tomorrow.

I have yet to read any contract that says, if you lose over and over again, you are a failure. That is as nonsense, as it’s a negative thought convincing you it is telling the truth.

Fail so badly and feel that failure. Feel that loss. Once again, let it go through you because that is what it will do. It will go through you and pass on by. You will cope and you will survive. Never lose that optimism. Remember, think of that result. If you want it, you will keep trying.

Losing does not define you and it certainly does not make you less than anyone. I’m proud of you and whatever comes your way, just embrace it and move forward. When it goes wrong, don’t lose that winner in your heart, mind, and soul.

For parents who have children in a sport.

I know parents want to see their child and his or her team, do really well. But, the most important thing a parent must remember is not to have high expectations for them to win. Doing this teaches them that they have to win to get approval from a parent.

If they lose, they will feel they let the parent down. This can cause anxiety, sadness, and possibly lack of interest to play again.

When they grow older and have kids, they might follow that same routine with their kids. So teaching them that winning is good, but losing is not the end of the world. That is also good.

Always be encouraging no matter if it is a win, loss, or tie. Be proud of them and I know you are. The two most important things you can tell a child who is playing on a team is to try your best, and have so much fun out there.

God Bless You and Never Give Up!

Sincerely, Danny Gautama

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Danny Gautama has been in the fitness industry over 25 years and is a local author. He writes inspirational and motivational articles for mental health organizations after overcoming his own struggles. In addition to Biz X magazine, he also has been a guest blogger for Hotel Dieu Grace Hospital, EmotionallyNaked.com and was featured in the Windsor Star. He currently lives in Windsor and is working on an inspirational book. Danny has earned awards from the LoveMakers Foundation for inspiring others with love, through his articles. Reach him by emailing: [email protected]