Your Life Gets Better When You Decide To Get Better
If you are someone that is feeling that your world is falling apart, I am here to tell you that I understand your pain. Life can be very scary, tough, and overwhelming. Sometimes you just want to stay in bed all day and sleep your way through your problems, only to realize that the problems are still going to be there when you wake up.
Having faced many challenges in my life, the one thing that has helped me through tough times was to be consciously aware of what my problems were doing to me. I knew I could never run away from them because they would end up finding me. The more I thought about it, the stronger they got. On top of that, the problems would start to play tricks on me, making me believe that my struggles were too overwhelming to find a solution.
Addressing and facing my problems was the best thing I could do. I knew my problems were just making everything around me worse. It was affecting not only me, but those I love.
So instead of living with agoraphobia, I had to challenge it. This also went for my depression, anxiety, and OCD. I had to fight back. I had to do the opposite of what the negative stuff was doing to me.
Always remember, a problem will only last if you let it. When you take charge and the initiative to get better, then you will start to make improvements.
If you are a boxer and you allow the other boxer to continue to punch you, but you don’t block and just allow the individual to hit you, then you will inevitably go down.
Now, let’s say if you show the boxer that you have the heart and you start fighting back, then you refuse to let the boxer take power over you. Regardless, if you get knocked down, you must get back up and keep fighting. Same goes with life.
So, this is why it is important to fight back.
What do I mean by fighting back? It’s simple, write down each problem you have on a lined piece of paper, and with each problem, I want you to identify why this is causing you pain.
On another side of the problem I want you to come up with solutions to get rid of the problem. And after that write down the benefits of defeating the problem. For example, I had agoraphobia. That was my biggest problem stopping my life.
So, I knew the problem and what it was negatively doing to me. I did not want to feel this way anymore, because there was no movement, progress or growth happening in my life. I wanted a change. Now I had to think of what I could do to get out of feeling this way and not making substantial progress.
Here is what I would write . . .
What is the problem? My agoraphobia.
Why is this problem hurting me? I feel stuck in the house. I feel alone. I cannot see the people I want to see. I am living in my own prison. I cannot achieve what I want.
How can I get rid of this problem? (agoraphobia) I can take small steps and make some minor progress. Each day I can stay outside for five minutes, then the next day 10 minutes and so on. I can walk on the street, and then I can gradually walk further and further as I keep making progress
What are the benefits of beating agoraphobia? I will be free. I can meet friends again. I can go out and do the things I want to do. I will feel happy and fearless.
I must take ACTION to solve this problem! I knew that in order to beat agoraphobia, I needed to take great action if I wanted to see great results. I could not just sit still.
Now it’s obvious that facing my fears and walking outside was the BEST thing I did. Not only did I change and become happier, but my whole world and life changed. Now I am unstoppable.
This is why it’s very important to be aware and accept that the situation is not helping you in any way shape or form. Writing it out takes all the stress off your mind and onto paper. This will help you keep everything organized without letting it clutter your mind.
The truth is, you will be surprised that you find more pros than cons. And the quality of your life will immensely improve once you start to get rid of the problems you are facing.
Think of your problem like a problem-solving test. It is a challenge, right? But, you want to figure out the answer. In order to do that you have to look at every angle of the problem and figure out the best strategy you can take to solve it, just like I did.
As scary as change may seem, just keep in mind that it will help you in the long run. Every day I want you to work on the pros.
So, if you have depression, then that is the problem.
How do you feel having depression? You most likely feel sad, hopeless, lonely, and worthless.
What can you do to solve this problem? You can talk to someone you trust. You can call a qualified therapist. You can focus on things that only make YOU happy. You can do some volunteer work. You can organize your living space to make it positive and inspiring, etc.!
What are the benefits of beating depression? You will be HAPPY.
You will be free. Your mental and physical health will improve. You will be inspired to do things you have always wanted to do. You will be more social again. Plus, a plethora of more benefits.
Now take ACTION to solve your problem!
This is just a sample of ideas about what you can do to change your life. To summarize, whatever the problem is, just use the five main points.
- What is the problem?
- Why is this problem hurting you?
- What can you do to solve the problem?
- What are the benefits of solving the problem?
Remember a problem can never be solved if there is no given action. So, make sure whatever you are doing results in POSITIVE PROGRESS. Keep your standards and expectations higher than average. You know you can do more than the minimum.
My friends, success will ALWAYS follow the ones who make no excuses and are driven to be the very BEST. We are all given a choice to sit or fly for GREATNESS. So, make sure you put on your cape.
God bless you.
Never give up. Keep moving forward. Believe in yourself.
Be a Legend!